Built to Last is the current sermon series at Venture Church. It is a series based on marriage and relationships. Are you married, dating, wanting to be married or have been married? Odds are that you will one day, along with 96% of Americans, be married. As always, you can listen to the past sermons here.
Our current series is called “Built to Last.” This is a marriage series that we are excited about around Venture.
Please start your group with prayer.
Go around the group and answer the following question:
How would you like to see your closest relationship develop in the next year(s)?
This week Don continued in the Built to Last series with a message on Love vs Respect. He made several points regarding these aspects in marriage.
-Let each one of you love his own wife as himself.
-And let the wife see that she respects her husband.
-Men and women have different physical and emotional needs.
-They have different ways of communicating and responding.
-Don described the “crazy cycle” that marriages can fall into. In this cycle, without love, the woman reacts without respect. Without respect, the man reacts without love. And the cycle continues. We want to see a cycle where the woman feels loved and therefore shows respect and having received respect, the man reciprocates with love.
What does the Bible say?
Please read Ephesians 5:22-33
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy,cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
In your own words, please summarize the passage you just read.
Looking back on Don’s message this week, what most puzzled, bothered, or inspired you?
In scripture Paul devotes twice as many words to telling husbands to love their wives as to telling wives to submit to their husbands.
What are some ways that this passage tells us how a man should love his wife?
1. He should be willing to sacrifice everything for her.
2. He should make her well-being of primary importance.
3. He should care for her as he cares for his own body.
There is an interesting point that no woman should fear submitting to a man who treats her in this way.
What can I change in my life to improve my closest relationship(s)?
“As God by creation made two of one, so again by marriage He made one of two.” ~ Thomas Adam
Please end your group with prayer.
Tyndale House Publishers. Life Application Bible: NIV. Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House, 1991.2140. Print.